surviving or thriving on a socially distant mother’s day

A socially distant Mother’s Day?

While on a recent video meeting, I found myself reminiscing with one of my sons about the Mother’s Day gardens we sowed, games we played, and the stories we shared. I referred to him and his three brothers as my baby boys or my favorite garden buddies. These are a few memories that remind me of the days I was needed and so loved. Each one vivid and beautiful in its own way, but now they come and go like springtime ghosts. These scenes bring smiles and sometimes, a few tears, especially now as I think about social distancing from my family. I ask myself if they’re surviving or thriving as our first socially distant Mother’s Day approaches.

Ready to hug and touch

After two-and-a-half months of distancing from family, colleagues, and friends, I’m ready to run outside to hug neighbors, dogs, cats, and especially my grandkids. Although I’m thankful for tulips, amazing sunsets, and cool evening breezes that beckon my husband and me out to the back porch, I’d like to plan a few visits with friends and family. STAT. So, I asked my son and his wife if dad and I could stop by for a backyard get-together. “We promise not to get too close,” I said.

They laughed, and then my son abruptly changed the subject. He said something like, “Hey, did you guys see so and so on that show last night?”

I rolled my eyes and fought the urge to argue. Really? Aren’t they over this new normal mumbo jumbo yet? I resisted further toxic thoughts, however, a few questions piqued my brain. If we say we’re in this pandemic crisis together, but thousands of people are left alone to face unemployment hardships and illness every day—why do we sweat the small stuff like visiting family in our backyards? I’ll wear multiple layered masks and gloves if need be. After all, whether we shop for groceries in a store or online or order take out or delivery—we aren’t 100% immune to any virus that comes down the pike in the future.

Surviving or thriving?

While some people prefer a solitary life, I wonder if usually active families will now decide to hide behind four walls indefinitely? Maybe it all comes down to the basic human instinct of survival. What if we look inward and ask ourselves: Are we surviving, or thriving, on this socially distant Mother’s Day?

Lord help me share your love and rest in your care.

Me

Sure, I’m a thriving survivor—nevertheless, when it comes down to the safety and health of my children or grandchildren, nothing else matters. I’d often push back with a logical argument, but the cute growly frown on my husband’s face reminds me, this fight is futile. We wave good-bye to our grandbabies, blow kisses and bubbles to the computer screen, and count our blessings. Our son and daughter-in-law are healthy. They’re protecting their children—like we always protected ours. God is good. He proves his faithfulness in joyous times and tragic storms. He shows us the way to love isn’t always how we believe it to be. And in many ways, in these new normal days, he brings us closer to our socially distant family.

The way

God’s word is perfect. I only hope to accept His will no matter what comes my way. While I’m thankful for each day, it’s hard to put my agenda aside to walk a road I didn’t choose. All I can say is thank God for Jesus. He showed me the way.

Whether we cower in the darkest closets to hide from a world filled with sickness and human monsters, wince in pain when we touch old scars, or wade through murky waters to find our way home—God is in the dark with us. If we raise our glasses on celebratory days, sip champagne, or stroll arm in arm with loved ones—He is there celebrating too. All we have to do is look for him…and believe. Because. He. Is. More.

For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be glory forever. Amen.

Romans 11:36 ESV

He is more

Many have felt the sting of helplessness during this Coronavirus Pandemic. We couldn’t hold a dying parent or child’s hand. Everything was out of our control. In these trying times when the world says we’re weak, inadequate, or not enough, God is able to be more than we can ever ask or imagine.

…that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith—that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

Ephesians 3:16-21

Now more than ever, I pray we learn from this exquisite world God made for us. Perhaps the solitary moments and singing of the birds might help us hear his voice whispering on the wind. May his Holy Spirit turn our hearts toward gratitude and joy at his presence in our lives.

But ask the animals, and they will teach you; the birds of the air, and they will tell you; ask the plants of the earth, and they will teach you; and the fish of the sea will declare to you. 12:10 In his hand is the life of every living thing and the breath of every human being. 

Job 12:7-8,10
~ Happy socially distant Mother’s Day ~

Dear friends,

Will you be surviving or thriving on a socially distant Mother’s Day? Whether we’re apart from our kids, mother, father, grandchildren or friends ~ Let’s savor these quiet moments without fear. May we reflect on the last few months when our families were separated with gratitude and come away from this season with wisdom, knowledge, and peace that supasses all understanding. Here’s one of my favorite stories about my beautiful mom: Happy Mother’s Day! Let’s continue to focus on what matters most. Life is a precious gift. We are deeply loved. Thanks for keeping Dennis and I in your thoughts as he recovers from the dumb heart attack that rocked us back in January. Last week, his doctor released him to resume ALL normal activities! Yippie!!! You know I praise God he’s doing great.

Have you felt weary and alone while practicing social distancing from family and friends? Will you venture out to celebrate with others, or will this be a socially distant Mother’s Day for you?

I’d love to hear from you. Let me know where you find peace in trying times. Don’t forget to join the conversation in the Inspire A Fire comments section below this post. Stop by http://joannclaypoole.com, my quirky Dreamdove’s Flights of Fancy blog https://joannclaypoole.wordpress.com, or FB, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest for more stories,quotes, and the every day family la, la, la.

Wishing you blessings, health, and peace for the journey.

Joann

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Joann Claypoole

Joann Claypoole is an author, speaker, master stylist/colorist, and former spa-girl entrepreneur. She's a wife, mother of four sons, “Numi” to four grandbabies, doggie-mom of two. The award-winning author of The Gardener’s Helper’s (ages 5-9 MJ Publishing2015) would rather be writing, hiking in the mountains, or inviting deer and other wildlife to stay for dinner near her western NC writing retreat. Visit her website: joannclaypoole.com and WordPress blog: https://joannclaypoole.wordpress.com/

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12 comments

  1. Enjoying a cup of tea, soaking my feet and reading your blog on this cool Texas afternoon…Beautifully written my friend….Stay safe and enjoy this special weekend.
    Love – Dotti

    1. Awww. I’m so glad you had a moment to read this one, Dotti. I hope your eye surgery has healed and you and your family are well. You know it’s all about each day. Thanks for reminding me ~ We’re survivors. Love you!

  2. Joanne, you truly inspire me!! I will get to see my children and grandchildren tomorrow….an in person socially distant visit….no hugging (which is extremely hard for me) but at least they will be here, even if only a few feet away! I am also scheduled to “see” my mom through the glass of the front door at the nursing home tomorrow at 2:15! I have not been able to see my precious mother in almost 2 months and it’s been heartbreaking 💔💔.

    Very happy to hear Dennis is doing so well! Our God is an awesome God 🙏🏻😇

  3. Love reading your blogs. This one in particular is wonderful! My children and grands are all far away and I will not see them for Mother’s Day. That’s ok. I know they are safe and well and God is in control! This is your former neighbor and Nicole’s mom. Happy Mother’s Day, Shirley Carpenter

    1. Shirley! It’s so good to hear from you. We have such fond memories of Nicole babysitting our boys when we were neighbors. It was so great to see her a while ago with her own beautiful big family. Great to hear from you. Blessings…

  4. Joann,
    I am so over the social distancing!! Today we went to our daughter’s and baked a cake with my granddaughter. First time ever baking with her.
    I don’t know about you, but I feel this way…God Numbers my days. He alone gave me life and He alone will end it. If He chooses to have me go out with this crazy COVID-19 Virus, then so be it. MY GOD IS IN CONTROL OF EVERYTHING.
    If staying isolated caused me to miss the last time I could be with my children, now that would be sad. This is not being selfish, it’s giving perfect God the allegiance He deserves. Not scare tactics being magnified by flawed humans…End rant 🤐

  5. Another beautiful writing. As I was rocking my granddaughter today and singing, this song came to my mind. I feel good goes beautifully with your writing today.

    😊🙌🏼🙏🏻🎶💕
    Peace, peace, wonderful peace,
    Coming down from the Father above!
    Sweep over my spirit forever, I pray
    In fathomless billows of love.

    “And the peace of God [that peace which reassures the heart, that peace] which transcends all understanding, [that peace which] stands guard over your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus [is yours].”
    ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:7‬ ‭AMP‬‬
    https://www.bible.com/1588/php.4.7.amp

    Love you,
    Debbie Osteen

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