It’s a Question of Pride: Does It Really Matter?

I have a profound truth to share that may come as a surprise to some: None of us are called to a Ministry of Criticism.

Even though no official committee exists, it’s easy to recognize its members. Perhaps you’re one of them. I find myself joining and resigning this committee over and over, year after year. For some reason, it’s often easier to see the failures of others rather than my own.

That’s not the way I want to be. So I’m trying to monitor my mouth and my mind with these four questions:

  • Is it truly a problem, or is it just my preference? I’m learning that I don’t have to say everything I think. I may not like the music, the bulletin may have glaring errors, and the nursery’s new paint color may look like it came from the dump, but in the grand scheme of things, does it really matter?
  • Does it have eternal consequences? Is it an issue of sin, or simply a matter of tradition? Will it affect someone’s heart for eternity, or is it simply my taste over theirs?
  • Can I make a difference? If it’s a matter of maturity, can I mentor them into a place of seeking God’s will in their choices? Can I help them grow in the love and admonition of the Lord?
  • Am I contributing to the Body’s strength or its weakness?

Don’t be a member of the cold water committee. Instead, discover what really matters, and then monitor your mouth and your mind.

The wise in heart are called discerning, and pleasant words promote instruction. Proverbs 16:21

Grace and peace,


Vonda Skelton

Vonda is a speaker, writer, and motivational humorist who is thankful God can take her messes and use them for His glory. She's the author of four books, owner of The Christian Writer's Den blog, and founder of Christian Communicators, an organization to help educate, validate, and launch women in their speaking ministries. Vonda and her husband have been married all their lives--and they're still happy about it!

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  1. Thanks, Ellen! It’s worked well for me for several years now. Not that I always do the right thing, but it sure helps me stay more focused on what’s important and what’s right!

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