No thanks, Hollywood. I’ll get my definition of love somewhere else.
In a culture already rife with human trafficking and pornography addiction (much of it violent), we don’t need an ought-to-be-X-rated film to try to convince us that rape and domestic violence are sexy.
We don’t need an obsessive stalker to show us how to rob someone for his sick sense of satisfaction.
We don’t need psychology to negate the guilt this power-monger ought to carry for degrading, manipulating, threatening, and coercing a young woman to have sex with him.
We don’t need a bizarrely naive 21-year-old who can’t think past how amazingly attractive her partner is to suggest that with enough submission and obedience, with quiet compassion and misguided understanding, a woman can fix her abuser.
What we need is to SHOUT
All kinds of wrong.
And we’ve sat passively on issues like these for far too long.
MILLIONS are thronging to read this, see this lie-in-action.
But in the Church, I hear a whole lot of
I haven’t read it
Won’t read it
Won’t go see it
Don’t even want to talk about it
I’ll go there.
I haven’t read it either
Won’t read it
Won’t go see it
But talk about it?
We MUST. We are not gagged and bound.
The issue won’t go away.
Unless we–and our young people–are anchored to the Truth, we drift.
And drift is always away.
And the riptides are STRONG, people.
Even as we stand still, thinking we’re holding our own
The currents undercut us and pull at us
We are standing still as the ground beneath us erodes
These books, this movie. They lie to the masses. They say they’re empowering, liberating.
Maybe they are.
Maybe they’re empowering sadists and torturers to start younger.
Maybe they’re liberating the sex traffickers to offer more toys and tools and exciting scenarios.
Are you uncomfortable?
I am too
We ought to be
If we don’t–as a Church–decide we’re willing to talk about sex with our children, our young people, our new adults
If we don’t share about
What is TRUE
What sex ought to be
What sex was designed to be
Selfless, not selfish
Edifying, not degrading
Tender, not torturous
Passionate, not vicious
Offering, not robbing
Listening, not ignoring
Giving, not raping
Pleasuring, not perverting
Covenantal, not contractual
Unless we teach this, explain this
The young people among us will listen to the crowds beating their drum the loudest, spending the most money, parading their message most obnoxiously through the streets
And into our homes, into our high school libraries, into our wives’ and sisters’ bedrooms, into our kids’ friends’ bedrooms, into our daughters’ boyfriends’ bedrooms, into our sons’ rooms
Do you want me to go on?
Yet, if we shout loud enough,
Maybe we can draw notice to the lie. Unmask it.
Maybe the Truth will offer instruction to the men who want respect who want to lead someone devoted to them
Hope to the women who want to be loved
The young women who hope someone amazing will notice them, love them–just as they are
The women who would be willing to do just about anything to feel like they belong to someone
Maybe speaking the Truth about Love will give those of us who know
the opportunity to introduce those men and women to
the One they were made for.
Let the books and the movies make us uncomfortable, by all means.
But we can’t ignore them.
Let’s speak the Truth
In the name of REAL Love