Losing that Loving Feeling and How to Get it Back

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Loving feeling, courtesy of Adobe SparkHave you lost that loving feeling?

Love rode off into the sunset. People. Belief systems. Lofty imaginations. Endearing lines from a romance story.

Many times I saddled up to run away, too. What was I afraid of?

As long as I can remember, I’ve questioned love.

So what substantiates the real thing? Can we lose it and find it again?

Losing the Loving Feeling

Since love seemed uncertain and on shaky ground, I formed a bubble around myself. A safety net to protect.

I enjoy bubbles. Be it the children’s class at church or a party, I cannot keep from retrieving the wand for effervescence of bubbli-ness.

But fragile circles of soapy liquid don’t float forever. They always meet their destiny—floor, furniture, blade of grass, tree, or human. Then burst. And so did mine.

I’d bought and cherished the wrong view of love. The one that uses the affection in loose terms. Expressing sentiments for a herd of things from people to food, from possessions to sports teams.

It wasn’t just about other people or broken relationships in my family and with friends. I was troubled by my heart’s swaying in the wind of fickleness. Feelings can’t be trusted all the time—most of the time.

The world, and all that is in it, teeters on a seesaw between having that loving feeling and losing that loving feeling.

Understanding the Loving Feeling Loving feeling, courtesy of Adobe Spark

How do we find the real thing? Love that is certain?

Several years ago, I read Francis Chan’s book, Crazy Love. The root of love and loving others well comes from God. Chan expresses God’s loving and giving nature from John 3:16. “For God so loved the world that he gave….” 

God gave love in the form of Jesus. For me and for you. The book encourages readers to insert our name into the passage. Go ahead and do it now.

For God so loved Karen that he gave his son. Powerful, right?

Recently, a friend worried about her grandchild during some hard moments. “I just love this kid so deeply. I want nothing but good for her.”

My response, “The good you want for her and the love you have for her, quadruple that a billion times over and that’s what the Lord wants for her.”

The Lord created us out of love. He spared us out of love. He sent His Son to take our place out of love. God lovingly provides His Spirit and presence in our lives.

The heavenly Father loved us yesterday, loves us today, will love us tomorrow and every day to come.

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Finding the Loving Feeling

Loving feeling, courtesy of Adobe SparkGod’s love letter to us, the Bible, explains the depth of love He lavishes on us. “Each day the Lord pours his unfailing love upon me” (Psalm 42:8 NLT).

This is different than when the waitress tops off your water. Not the same as giving a nourishing drink to your thirsty flowers. Completely unlike pouring yourself a glass of milk to go with fresh-baked cookies.

Those specific examples are limited in their provision of pouring.

A Google definition of pour is “to flow rapidly in a steady stream.”

Imagine the Lord pouring His unfailing love over you in a rapid and steady stream. Not only today but each day. Not any kind of love. But His unfailing love.

And there are kinds that fail. The human brand. The affection that attaches itself to an object. The love that rides away. The one that burst your bubble.

Yet, God’s love is what I was looking for—the kind that pours over me. It’s long-lasting and keeps coming. Maybe you’re also looking for that kind of love.

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Let’s finish out the words from John 3:16. “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only son, Loving feeling, courtesy of Adobe Sparkthat whoever believes in him should not perish but have everlasting life” (ESV).

I’ve found that love. It’s not a feeling, it’s a person. His name is Jesus.

Have you found Him?

Found His love?

Images courtesy of Adobe Spark. 

Karen Friday

Whether the spoken or written word, Karen thrives in moving an audience to experience laughter, tears, surprise, and deep reflection. She not only possesses an affection for words (just ask her family), but she also cherishes God’s Word. Karen is an award-winning writer who has published both devotions and articles with a mission to know Jesus more and make Him known. She contributes to several national sites while she works on her first non-fiction book. In the blogging world, she is referred to as “Girl Friday” where she shares a central message: you are never far from hope. And she considers her life as a pastor’s wife and women’s ministry leader a sacred calling. Karen and her husband Mike reside in East Tennessee and have two grown children and two grandchildren. The entire family is fond of the expression, “TGIF: Thank God it’s Friday.” They owe Monday an apology. Connect with her blog community, Hope is Among Us.

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  1. Love love this. I needed it. Thanks for all your post. Everyone of them always help me with my daily struggles. Live you my friend

  2. Pam, thank you sweet lady. Praise God His love transcends all other forms of love because it’s unfailing! “Each day the Lord pours his unfailing love upon me” (Psalm 42:8 NLT). Love and hugs.

  3. “The love of God can never be lost only found…” I absolutely love that!!! Thank you Karen…you did it again…honest words of encouragement and Love straight from the father’s heart to ours….Amen!!

    1. Thank you, Marla, for stopping by to read and comment with such kind words. Oh, how God loves us. It’s powerful to think of His love in past, present and future tense. Every day, 24/7. Nothing can beat it. Blessings, friend.

  4. Wonderful post, Karen! I’m SO thankful for God’s love. It is unfailing. Everlasting. Beyond comprehension. He truly is a good, good Father, amen?

    1. Amen, Nan! He’s such a good Father and merciful Lord that out of His great love, He extends compassion and kindness to us. And gave His only Son. May be never downplay the power of His unconditional love. Blessings and hugs!

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