Back in the day my grandparents valued social manners and wholesome ethics.
My paternal grandfather passed away before I knew him. But raised near the apron strings of my grandmothers and the worn work boots of my maternal grandfather, I learned from their generation.
Because a phrase I heard from each of them started with this…
“Back in the day.”
Back in the Day: Stories Told
Albeit, the phrase makes us think of treacherous, uncivilized stories. Narratives of walking uphill both ways to school for long distances and sometimes in knee-high snow. And tight funds meant an orange became a Christmas gift—the kind you eat, not an orange dump truck or an orange dress.
Also, televisions were scarce and not scattered in every room as a commonplace fixture many of us have grown accustomed to. What about cable access to 100’s of channels? No, not that either. So the entire family went to the living room to watch one of two choices of shows—together and without a remote.
What my Grandmother Clarkston called “ungodly” started appearing on her television. She often said, “What’s the world coming to?” Oh, my. She’s no longer alive to see the God-forsaken viewing material channeled into our homes. Can I get a witness?
And back in the day, children and teens rose before daylight to do chores. This became a pattern in their adult lives—you get up early to work—either at home or at a work place. My grandparents never questioned the team concept. If you lived under a roof, you helped with whatever needed to be done.
My Grandmother Maxfield relayed how she relished every second of play time in childhood. You see, she assisted in cooking without microwaves, fancy appliances or pre-packaged meals. And restaurant curb-side takeaway didn’t exist. She washed dishes by hand. They sat down at a table for meals and talked to each other. What a revolutionary idea!
Back in the Day: A Simpler Life
But to our kids and grandkids—perhaps to us—a simpler life without modern conveniences seems appalling. And life before the digital age defines a suppressed culture lacking entitlement and individual rights. We imagine it as boring with stifled creativity.
Listen, friends. Back-in-the-day generations were thankful for what they had and grateful for their family and life. For every piece of their time period and history that seems ghastly to us, there’s a counterpart of integrity and deep character weaved through the chapters of their stories. Yet, when times were hard, they pulled together in the spirit of family and community.
My grandparents often noted. “Back in the day, boys and girls learned social manners, certain etiquette and ethics were expected.” And my grandparents instilled many of those values in me. They taught me to be respectful. Along with my siblings, we learned to be kind, share, and contribute to chores around our home. We knew one day we would not only get jobs, but also contribute to society.
But while I enjoy the digital world now, honestly, I’m thankful computers and smart phones didn’t define my childhood. Or the vast selection of mind-less and spirit-less television programming made available in present day.
Because my siblings and I enjoyed playing outside. We read books we held in our hands and turned real pages with our fingers—still my favorite way to read. We entertained ourselves by being creative and imaginative.
Back in the Day: Manners and Ethics
Is it me or does our current culture mass produce kids and adults without wholesome ethics and who lack social manners? Is becoming a contributing member of society a dying breed? Maybe you’ve noticed how being rude and crude is both popular in public and on social media. A lack of manners mimicked in the shows and videos we watch.
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I fear we swung the pendulum so far in the name of modern and innovative progress, we let the good and wholesome ethics of our pedigree fall from our family trees.
Why are we appalled at the lack of moral compass in our day? Maybe it’s the backlash of letting the grand parts of our ancestor’s generations slip away from us.
How do we deal with a changing culture as families and believers? The prophet Micah tells us, back in the day:
“He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.” (Micah 6:8, NIV)
As Christ-followers, let’s set the bar high in an ever-changing culture.
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Featured image from left to right: my paternal grandparents, my maternal grandparents, my father with his mother.
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